Should I commit forever to a relationship that started with me as sloppy seconds?
Q. The first two times I hooked up with my girlfriend she had slept with her ex boyfriend earlier in each night. These two times we hooked up were a year apart, and the 2nd time a few months before we began officially dating. Once in a while she talks ...
A. 20 November 2008: I'm not a guy but I want to say to you, that everything I read in your posting, smacks of doubt...a lot of it. There are 'lack of respect' issues going on here, as well. All big huge waving red flags! I would even go so far as to state, you ... (read in full...)
She acts weird while on the phone, I'm in a lot of pain because of it, should I leave her?
Q. I got a girlfriend for 2 years now and she means everything to me. She makes me feel special and everything. The Only problem is that she been acting weird i don't know if she is tired of me when we are next to each other she acts the way i want ...
A. 20 November 2008: I just saw your followup and I have to ask...do you phone her? If you do, then stop calling her so much and stop talking to her such long periods of time. She likely just needs some space. She needs other outlets and friends, too. That is just the ... (read in full...)
My wife said she cheated on me to get even, then said they only kissed, I don't know what to believe or do?
Q. Well here it is, I made a Huge mistake by meeting someone on the internet and it went way farther than i expected it to go anyway she found out about it and eventually i admitted to everything, i did cheat and am Very Sorry for it its been about 6 ...
A. 20 November 2008: As was said below, your wife is still in deep pain over your affair and she's floundering. Judging from your last line, I see that you do believe that when a person has been in a 17 year marriage, they don't just roll over, give up and leave. They ... (read in full...)
She acts weird while on the phone, I'm in a lot of pain because of it, should I leave her?
Q. I got a girlfriend for 2 years now and she means everything to me. She makes me feel special and everything. The Only problem is that she been acting weird i don't know if she is tired of me when we are next to each other she acts the way i want ...
A. 20 November 2008: You need to communicate to her what you have said here, in your posting. We don't know why she's acting wierd. There could a number of viable answers to that question.
It could just mean that after long term dating, some couples do get complace... (read in full...)
Motorboat at the stripclub
Q. I am 25 years old and my fiance 33. Last weekend we went to a strip club with my friend, let's just call her Sally. Sally and I were wondering if the strippers boobs were fake or real so we asked my fiance to go ask her and find out. He gave her ...
A. 20 November 2008: He yelled and cursed at you? Is that common behavior when he's frustrated? So tell me, what is the credibility of this guy of yours? What is your relationship history like with him? Is he dependable, trustworthy or...not? Has he ever given you ... (read in full...)
My girl doesn't like to be touched!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for nearly a year. We both love eachother very much and have no plans to break up. However, she has an unnoticable case of ADHD to the human eye, and I think it's from this I have my problem. She doesn't like ...
A. 19 November 2008: Hugging, kissing, displays of affection are very crucial in a love relationship. It builds the bond of love, and it builds the momentum of intimacy, until the day you decide to both make love. That is natural, normal and as humans, we all need this. ... (read in full...)
She gave mixed signals and I don't understand!
Q. I have a question/scenario. Here is your chance to give some good advice to a confused man. I had been dating this girl for about 4 months. Everything thing was going FANTASTIC! I played it cool - didn’t try to rush anything - Just had the most ...
A. 19 November 2008: My advice..try not to date such complicated, baggage riddled women, anymore. Listen, this could just be me, but when humans (men/women) fall in love with another human, they do absolutely everything in their power to stay with that beloved, they ... (read in full...)
My F-I-L harrassed me, and said he won't stop until he gets what he wants.
Q. I am 32 years old and married my husband 5 months ago. My husband's father had been very close to me, really helping me be accepted in the family. Its a big family with 5 kids, all of whom are married, my husband being the youngest of the children. ...
A. 19 November 2008: Gosh, you have smarmy, father in law there, who feels entitled to molesting whom he feels, with little caring for what his actions do to others. Carrie, this is just a guess on my part and you can correct me if I am wrong, but if you were good ... (read in full...)
My husband has been cheating on me all along with his ex wife!
Q. My husband of 12 years has been cheating on me, the other woman called to tell me, he in turn confessed. They have in fact never stopped sleeping together she is his ex wife. This was a year ago and I cannot get over it, it is on my mind most of ...
A. 19 November 2008: So are you saying that he 'always' had sex with her the whole 12 years, you were married to him? A year ago, she derailed your life by calling to tell you about this sordid mess and it's no wonder, you still find yourself in this emotionally, ... (read in full...)
I'm dating an older man but falling for his son who's my age.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a few months who's alot older than me. Recently I've been spending alot of time with his son who is my age. I've found myself developing feelings for him but don't know what to do....
A. 18 November 2008: If you are serious about pursuing the son, I will say don't go there! Please. If you can't get your feelings under control for the son, then I think you should immediately bail out of this relationship with the father, and definitely NOT date the ... (read in full...)
A survey on family household stuff...for school, and I need your answers.
Q. Hey guys! I'm doing a survey in school + need as many people as possible to take part, it's okay if it's not allowed to be asked on here.. but if it is, could you please answer these questions with who you think should do these things? m = man, w = ...
A. 16 November 2008: Where I live, it's pretty much a given, that both people work, in order to contribute to the family's financial obligations, so therefore, the parenting and household chores are undertaken by 'both' partners. ,,It's a compromise and most of the ... (read in full...)
Blood after sex, can this sometimes happen? Should I go to the doctor?
Q. Hello again, just one more question! My boyfriend and I had been intimate and right after intercourse, he had blood on him. I'm not on my period I finnished a week ago. At the same time I feel no pain, but there is blood... can this sometimes ...
A. 15 November 2008:
Check out the website below.
http://boards.webmd.com/webx?THDX@@.59ac842c!thdchild=.59ac842c
If this persists...get to a doctor.... (read in full...)
I just found out I'm pregnant from a one-night stand! What should I do?
Q. hello everyone and cupid, im 18 years old and my adult life is goin great, but sepemtember, my friends, azlynn and alanna, invited guys from murfreeboro, of course they were from a band called [moderator removed identifying details]. We all got a ho...
A. 14 November 2008: Agree with Birdy's wise counsel on getting yourself screened for HIV and STD's. That is vitally important. If you know you are pregnant, have you been to a medical physician to have the results confirmed and get screening, bloodwork and careful ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but says he is bored without me.
Q. im in love with a guy...that i should not be in love with, because he has a gf. but im to the point that i think he may be with me in the end. i try to go days with no contact in attempt to leave him alone, but it hasn't worked. we had a talk last ...
A. 13 November 2008: He's bored without you? It means one of three things:
1) he likes you a lot and misses you... but he's not exiting out of the other relationship, to be with you, completely... is he. So that is pretty telling. He's got 2 females on the hook... (read in full...)
In love, but scratching and sick of the lice.
Q. Dear cupid, i have a problem. my boyfriend is really cute and really sweet but I have lice. i would use the shampoo and get rid of it and for about 3 days it would be gone but then i would get them back. i just figured out i've been getting them fro...
A. 11 November 2008: Head lice is insidious and just a plain ..pain in the butt. My suggestion, have your Mom call his Mom. And get the ball rolling. And once your family has been all treated and everyone is lice-free...you stay away from this guy until he gets the ... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend send a video of him jerking off to his ex!
Q. So last week my boyfriend and I were sitting on the couch and he had his laptop. He signed into his email and plainly let me see his password. To tonight I decide to be nosey and just look in his email. I'm really paranoid about the things his ex ...
A. 11 November 2008: I think you have a problem, here, in your relationship and with your bf. He's a lousey cheat. You have a bf who basically is having a game of 'foreplay' with his ex gf. He's giving her 'erotic memories and trophies' of himself, to gain her ... (read in full...)
How can I flirt with him in a "nice" way?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 15 and I love to flirt. But I'm used to the kinda I guess slutty flirting and wearing things that show off my body but there's this guy I saw at chruch that I really wanna get to know and I don't wanna be like that in chruch a...
A. 11 November 2008: Well, there are certainly 'nice, respectable' ways to flirt. And you are so right, when you say, you don't want to do the bold, slutty flirting thing. That type of behavior makes a girl look desperate, needy and a big tease. And this sort of thing ... (read in full...)
Why do people think you are gay because you like to wear kinky things or like to have things inserted into the anus?
Q. Why do people think you are gay because you like to wear kinky things or like to have things inserted into the anus. More so people think this when it's a male like me. When it comes to a female they can be classed as a s**t or s**t. I have fo...
A. 11 November 2008: Why worry about what others think? There are many heterosexual males out there who love anal play, with their female partners. They love it because stimulating the prostrate just inside their anus, gives them unbelievable pleasure.
As for the ... (read in full...)
I feel as if my mum interrogates me all the time.
Q. It's because of my mum that I can't have a relationship with this guy that I like. We both really like each other, but I can't stand it when my mum asks questions all the time, she doesn't even know about him but she anoys me so much I just don't ...
A. 11 November 2008: Your Mother is reacting like this, because she's scared for you. And it's because you likely don't offer much to her, by way of information, as to what you're up to. She's also worried, because she knows that one dumb mistake you could make now, ... (read in full...)
I'm fat, right?
Q. Hey, I'm 16 years old. I'm 6 ft tall and weigh 98 kilograms. I'm F A T, right?...
A. 10 November 2008: I would state for a young male, age 16 and at a height of 6 feet tall..98 (220 lbs) kg would actually be right on target, if you have a large frame structure. My son is 17, he's 6'1 ft and weighs around 78 kg (175 lbs). He looks like a toothpick! ... (read in full...)
Am I so wrong for wanting to leave my husband and make a better life for me and my kids?
Q. I still care about my husband but I am ready to move on and better my life and the lives of my children. I have been with my husband 9 years now but for the last 6 years my husband has not worked and I have been the one supporting our family ...
A. 9 November 2008: I am sorry you are stuck in this sad situation and no, you aren't wrong. You are fed up and who can blame you. . Marriage is supposed to be a mutualistic relationship, where both people build a life together, both contributing efforts, making ... (read in full...)
Am I in denial and this relationship is going nowhere?
Q. Been in a relationship for six years, engaged the last three years we had talked about marriage a few times and lately seems like the subject never comes around, we live in separate houses just 25 minutes away. He had mentioned that because I had se...
A. 9 November 2008: Are you saying, you only just realized he was drinking again, 2 weeks ago?! I find that astounding ..he hid it well. How many times per week did you visit him? Weren't there any other signs that had you alerted to his problem? Listen dear, I ... (read in full...)
How can I get my abusive ex out of my head?
Q. I'm a 26 year old male and I came out of a violent relationship just over two years ago. I was with my ex for a little under three years. She would drink bottles of wine every day and get violent towards me. I lost count of the times that she ...
A. 8 November 2008: Gosh, you have been to hell and back with this screwball of an ex gf, haven't you. I honestly think you could be experiencing a an anxiety disorder, or something akin to a form of post traumatic stress disorder. This just doesn't happen to ... (read in full...)
Five months pregnant and just diagnosed with the herpes virus!
Q. I'm 5 months pregnant and I was just diagnosed with the herpes virus. I haven't had sex with anyone else in over two years. I asked my bf if he was with anyone and he confessed and said he received oral sex from someone three months prior to me ...
A. 6 November 2008:
Yes, according to this link..it very well could have come from him.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/genital-herpes/DS00179/DSECTION=causes
But you need a doctor's opinion. Right now, you should be under a doctor's care and you need to plan... (read in full...)
Does my fella want his ex-fella back? Help!
Q. Now, this is my dilemma.. I'm with my perfect guy, he treats me wonderfully, the sex is amazing and we can stay up into all hours of the nite chatting, giggling and pampering each other. We're truly the best of friends, we can tell each other ...
A. 5 November 2008: From what I am reading here, your new bf enjoys the interest, the pursuit, and the attentions of his ex-fella. And vice-versa. In other words they are both mutually and emotionally conducting a form of foreplay with each other. And ... (read in full...)
Is he being unfaithful after 6 years? I know he's been on gay dating sites!
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 years. I was surfing the internet this morning on our computer, when I came across something which really upset me. The computer is a new one and I've never notice before but it has a...
A. 5 November 2008: I do agree with many of the Aunts below. Do other people use this computer? If not, and you are certain it was him who did this..can you not just communicate calmly and with respect for each other and ask him. Icelordess took the words out of my ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 he's 57, is the age gap too much?
Q. Hi, I am a 21 year old female and I recently met a guy off a dating site and we really have hit it off big time - sexually and spiritually! He's so considerate, loveable and all-over gorgeous and I may be falling in love with him. Trouble is, he's ...
A. 4 November 2008: You are both legal adults, so no one can tell you that you are being silly or that this age gap relationship is wrong. But dating usually has a possible outcome, it's to find that one person, we can spend a future with. So if you are like most of ... (read in full...)
Due to his family interference, I'm left with nothing. Now what should I do?
Q. I am 23, my boyfriend is 20, we have been together just over 2 years, and have been so happy. We have done so much together, including go away on holidays etc. A few months back (Aug 08) his family turned against me and from then I was not allowed ...
A. 3 November 2008: I agree with Eyeswideopen, whole heartedly. Ignore this guy and get on with your life! In your follow up you brought something very important, likely the root cause of your problem with him...which he contributed to the demise of this relationship. ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend struggle to get an erection? Is he impotent? Should he see a doctor?
Q. Hi there, im abit worried about my boyfriend. He finds it very hard to get or keep an erection. He was a virgin before we got together so at first i thought it might be down to nerves, but we have been together a year now so i know that its no...
A. 3 November 2008:
Have him go to his doctor to be assessed. Be supportive and remain calm and mature about this. This could be caused by a physical and/or medical problem. Check out the link below for more information:
http://ww... (read in full...)
My penis is aroused every morning, is that normal?
Q. Hi. I am 22 year old guy. Every morning when i wake up my penis is erected and really hard. I am a virgin and i masturbate quite often. (daily or once every two days). I masturbate to pornography. I think i dream too much about the pornography,...
A. 2 November 2008: I think all men, irrgardless of porn use or not, wake up quite often, in this state. Don't worry about it..it means your healthy and it's perfectly normal!
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is leaving far away forever and I also like another guy, should I wait and see what happens, or leave them both now?
Q. i really need help,that's why i came here, i have been in a relationship with a boy for a year and 2 months now,i really like him a lot,but he moving to Canada soon forever before Christmas.he wont come back and something bad is slowly happening...
A. 1 November 2008: Girl, you are only 15 years old! Such big decisions! You can do whatever you want, just make sure, you use your head and show respect for all involved. But I do have a suggestion for you. Why don't you go it alone, after your current bf moves to ... (read in full...)
Ladies, what does my ex gf mean in all, she says to me?
Q. Firstly i know this is rather long but i would very much apperciate it if you took 2 mins to read it! thanks in advance! me and my ex broke up about 5 months ago, we didnt speak for about 2 months then she got back in touch with me. We met up a ...
A. 1 November 2008: The Aunts below, give you great advisement and I concur with them completely. Reading about what she says to you...it's apparent that your ex gf has indeed, moved on with her life and you may have to just accept that fact, as hard as it is. I am ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend, porn habit, no sex, being told I'm manipulative
Q. Okay..my boyfriend of about a year has always used porn as an outlet. He's upfront and honest about it, how he spends hours browsing and downloading it. He's even shared some of it with me, etc. I DO enjoy some of it. Although deep down I feel ...
A. 1 November 2008: I agree with Fade..Poster, your bf is mismanaging his compulsion for pornography. You sound like a willing, loving gf who is always willing to have a healthy, robust, good round of great sex with your man, if he wanted it. But he doesn't..he 's ... (read in full...)
Is 14 too young to be going out with a 17 year old?
Q. im 14 years old and i met a guy at my families halloween party who is 17. he is the son of a family friend, and he gave me his email. do you think i am too young to go out with him? i really like him and he isnt some sort of player or something lol....
A. 1 November 2008: Personally, I do think you are too young to date an older boy. But hold on a minute..maybe you are jumping the gun here a wee bit. He gave you his email to stay in contact, and just by doing that--doesn't mean you will be 'dating' him. Have you ... (read in full...)
Why does she keep breaking her word and backing out?
Q. I have a big problem with my gf, she tells me one thing and then does another, she builds up my hopes and then crushes my hopes all the time, it has been more often lately. I am a travel agent and with work I get to go abroad 3-4 times a year, ev...
A. 1 November 2008: Listen, it's plain that if you've been with her for 4 years, you both have had a quality relationship, in other ways? Right? Otherwise you wouldn't have been with her this long. She has this problem--she keeps you hangin'--she changes her mind on ... (read in full...)
He is very angry and says I don't care about him...what more can I do??
Q. My 20yr old boyfriend and i have been dating on and off for about ten months. over of which he has gotten a dui and lost his license for a year. i moved 4 hours away from him, for school that offered me a scholarship, about 3 months ago. i have been ...
A. 30 October 2008: Well, from what I read in your posting you didn't back out. You were upfront and you were more than willing to compromise with him. I mean... here you are, committed to these weekend events, but are still prepared to skip a class to drive a ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a guy that is 5 years older than I am and I'm scared to tell my parents about him.
Q. i dont know what to do......im seeing a guy who is five years older than me and i am scared to let my parents know....
A. 29 October 2008: I tend to agree with qcumbr1. If you are the age of 18-21 years old, I can't see a real problem with you dating a guy 5 years older than yourself. I have to ask...why are you scared? You are a legal adult so why do you feel your parents would ... (read in full...)
Are some men turned off by a womans career path?
Q. Are some men turned off by a woman's career path? Im in my early 30's and finishing up a cardiothoracic surgery fellowship and hoping to start my own independant pracitce next year. I have dated many guys in the past but none of them have reached ...
A. 28 October 2008: Amazing!! Kudos to you, girl! I love hearing about young women like yourself who work darned hard to succeed, through their own hard work and huge efforts. And I think you are meeting the wrong kind of men, dear. Lots of guys out there that would ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin? We had anal sex.
Q. I'm a freshman in at a catholic school college and I am catholic. I want to save myself for marriage, but one night me and this girl (we were both drunk) went to my room and started making out. One thing led to another and our cloths were off. I ...
A. 28 October 2008: Agree with the Aunts below, who state you lost your virginity. In my personal opinion here, it doesn't matter if you pentrated anally or vaginally. You had a "first time sexual experience" where penetration was involved in another person's body ... (read in full...)
My husband beats me every time I nag him about watching porn.
Q. My husband beats me every time I nag him about watching porn, his mother has treated me very badly in the past. We are living separately now. When I yelled at him today for his mother treating me badly he said am eating his head. He watches porn ...
A. 28 October 2008: Hi there. In most countries, there are 'women's right groups'. Even in countries where cultures turn a blind eye to spousal abuse. I suggest you do a search yourself. Just type in the name of your country and the words "domestic abuse/woman's rights ... (read in full...)
My husband beats me every time I nag him about watching porn.
Q. My husband beats me every time I nag him about watching porn, his mother has treated me very badly in the past. We are living separately now. When I yelled at him today for his mother treating me badly he said am eating his head. He watches porn ...
A. 28 October 2008: I am sorry for your plight. Phil is correct, in some countries like yours, women and children are treated horribly and the husbands get away with it. There are several active women's rights groups, in your country that you could contact. Would ... (read in full...)
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