Huusband cheated on me with 2 women from a dating site..should I tell his parents?
Q. A year ago I discovered my husband of 10 years had been joining internet dating sites and has in fact had sex with at least 2 of the women he met on these sites. I have been to marriage counselling and on anti-depressants and trying my best t...
A. 13 August 2010: Sooty, I am sorry for your painful situation. You need to make a plan and decide whether you want to remain in a marriage to a man, who is doing this to you. When a couple marry, they willingly bind themselves to one another out of deep love. And ... (read in full...)
Does flirting with other guys equal cheating?
Q. Does flirting with other guys equal cheating? I've got a bf but I tend to sometimes flirt with other guys, no touching, nothing, just teasing them. Is this wrong and does this mean I'm cheating in any way? ...
A. 12 August 2010: I strongly believe that when a single female flirts, she is signaling availability. However when an attached female in a relationship, is flirting with others, signals a huge lack of self-restraint. You are not powerless, you can make good choices ... (read in full...)
Ex wife can't stand my girlfriend around our kids! How can I make her come around?
Q. my wife and i are getting a divorice. she left the house and when she did i change the locks on the door we each see our kids for half of the day i will get them in the nights from 6:00 pm untill the next morning 7:00 am the prolbem is she does not ...
A. 12 August 2010: Your marriage breakup seems very recent? And now, there is a new gf on the scene. Can you tell us, is your wife resentful of your new girlfriend for a reason? Did this new gf break up the marriage?
Two critical things are going here. 1) Your ... (read in full...)
Is it bad that I vented our relationship isssues to other people?
Q. I recently found out my girlfriend had been lying to me, which hurt a lot at first. I wrote her an email telling her I found out and she didn't get back for a few days, so I thought it was over. I am an extrovert I need people around me to talk with ...
A. 12 August 2010: Communication and trust is probably the most important factor within a relationship. The fact that your girlfriend lied to begin with, is a huge red flag. And she should never do it agin, if this relationshp is going to make it. If you care enough ... (read in full...)
Did I just complicated my life ?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm not so happy with what's happening between me and my gf (girlfriend), and kinda stuck, and don't know who's fault it is, or is it normal between us. But i guess i just lay it out here so someone might be able to help me with a s...
A. 12 August 2010: To me,and by readng your post..it appears your gf hasn't worked out her strong emotional attachment to her ex-bf, yet. And until she gets there, she will not be ready to give back to you in the way you want. You need to be strong and you must ... (read in full...)
Why is my abusive Ex not abusive to the new girl?
Q. well i left my abusive bf(the father of my 5 year old twins)about a year ago and i am lonely and misserable i live at my moms cause i cant afford my own place.my ex has a live in girlfriend and his own apt and he appears to be happy and not abusive ...
A. 9 August 2010: Oh gosh, I get this feeling that you are feeling like 'you' did something to warrant his abuse, simply because he 'appears' different with his new gf. Your ex-bf abused you..he was a creep to do that. All you ever did wrong was you made a poor ... (read in full...)
Son is addicted to drugs; what can I do?
Q. How can I help my drug-addict son? He is addicted to cocaine, and I tried everything,but nothing worked. I'm confused, some people says stop doing anything ,because you ''slowing the process'' some says leave the door open,because when there is ...
A. 9 August 2010: I am sorry for what you are enduring...truely I am. I have experienced this, firsthand, and it's a horrible situation to endure. Firstly, you need to find ways to look after yourself. Watching one's child descend into the hell of addiction, really ... (read in full...)
Got clingy and drove him off
Q. Hey everyone i need a little help, my co-worker and i used to be the best of friends we were very close and at the time i was with my boyfriend who is long distance. me and my co-worker got really close and one day at a co-workers house we had a ...
A. 2 August 2010: Back off and keep your cool. Retain your self-respect, here and if he doesn't go in pursuit of you, again...then let it go because, hun, he's likely just 'not that into this'. And why try to restart what is supposed to be a mutually respectable ... (read in full...)
If I am pregnant I want to keep the child
Q. Hello, i am 14 years old and i may be pregnant, i want to keep this baby and so does my boyfriend; he says he'll be by my side. But saying all this i dont even know if i am pregnant (im taking the test tommorrow.) Well the thing is my mum knows ...
A. 2 August 2010: The first thing you need to do is make sure you’re definitely pregnant.
If it’s confirmed that you’re pregnant, you need to think carefully about what’s best for you and this baby...I would suggest you and your boyfriend get informed. Get some adv... (read in full...)
If I'm not pregnant what else could be wrong with me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have sex every day, with no contraception. My last period was June 25, 2010, and it's now August 1, 2010. I've been having nausea, vomiting, no bladder control, acne, and i went to the doctor and they took a pee test and said ...
A. 1 August 2010: To be straight up with you....I don't think we can assess your situation, properly as none of us are certified medical doctors. However, if you are sexually active, you should be seeing a doctor on a regular basis for check ups, anyways. This sounds ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make the relationship with my boyfriend better?
Q. I having problems with my relationship with my boyfriend. me and my boyfriend have been togather for 4 years. Our relationship started randomly when he asked me out and i had nothing to say but yes. we lived very close by and our parents were family ...
A. 1 August 2010: This man is plainly not the one for you. You both did not share the same relationship values, you both were not compatible. All of his past and recent actions are saying, he has disconnected. He has gotten high, he has cheated on you and appears to ... (read in full...)
Is it worth reconciling with the ex?
Q. When I was in college, a guy that I was friends with suddenly started showing interest in me and finally asked me out… all in a span of one month. We had a summer break then and were in different cities. He called me up to ask me out and I said yes ...
A. 1 August 2010: Wow..this guy sounds like he has the makings of every girl's dating nightmare! If this work situation is making you uncomfortable, is it possible to move on to a new job? Listen, you're right. By the way you described him in your posting..he's ... (read in full...)
Fighting over our kids!
Q. My husband and I are constantly fighting over the kids. I have a 14 year old from a previous relationship and he has a daughter, 6 1/2, from a previous relationship. His daughter gets away with everything and my son gets pushed aside. What do I ...
A. 1 August 2010: What is the family dynamic here? Is his daughter being raised soley by her father and yourself, or is she with you folks, on court appointed visitations? By stating that his 6 year old daughter gets everything and your 14 year old gets pushed ... (read in full...)
How can I make him realise I am the one for him?
Q. I've been involved with someone for five years I love him soooooo much. He loves me too but we've never committed to each other. In the beginning we were amzing friends that grew deeper now five years later we barely speak. Ive been fighting for us ...
A. 9 June 2010: Walk away from this one, dear. Seriously, he's not on the same page as you are. Don't let your feelings of attachment to him..cloud your sensible judgement. If this guy loved you, as much as you hope he does..then really, absolutely nothing could ... (read in full...)
My ex suddenly lost interest in talking to me
Q. My ex broke up with me 3 months ago. I implemented NC and a month later she writes telling me how she misses me incredibly and wants to know if I've been thinking of her since she's been thinking about me. She continued to contact me often on afte...
A. 9 June 2010: She was lonely and needed you momentarily..that is all. I agree with Raiders..completely with the below advice, your ex gf owes you no closure...you both got that, the day you 2 broke up. My suggestion is: Leave her completely alone and begin doing ... (read in full...)
I cant bear to see her with someone else...but she doesn't return my feelings
Q. Hey. A couple of years ago, I started talking to a girl that was in my class. She was in a relationship with a very controlling and hurtful guy. I somehow became the person she turned to everytime she felt bad, or was hurt by the guy she went out...
A. 9 June 2010: Agree with the advice given below! This may have to be a 'love' that you will have to work out from afar. Unrequited love is a painful place to be and many of us have been there. So we feel your hurt. There is nothing you can do if this girl you ... (read in full...)
My ex has a girlfriend and she is pregnant so I want to leave him for good, but I need advice on how to do it!
Q. i been being with my ex for a while and i just found out that he's still with his GF and that she's prego.. he doesnt know that I know yet.... what amazes me is that when he come over he act's like nothing we get along great, he doesnt try to ...
A. 9 June 2010: Agreed, be dignified, but be strong. Please..no melodramatics. It just isn't worth it as this whole scenario has never been about 'you and him'. It's been just about 'him'...plain and simple. And I think you know that. So..yes, you need to break all ... (read in full...)
10 years long friendship ended because of something trivial. Need some honest opinions. Am I at fault?
Q. I have an old friend. We've known eachother since elementary school. We live in different cities but we still hang out together. We call eachother often and we help eachother out. My friend is very sensitive, from a young age already but I've kind ...
A. 19 May 2010: So this friend of yours...you say she is sensitive. Is she someone who's life is more often than not, filled with drama? A life that you get dragged into, time and again?
Is she dramatic, needy and a tad whiney? I am getting a vibe from read... (read in full...)
My husband of 3 months has been cheating on me with a whore!
Q. I am so devastated my husband of three months has been cheating on me. I found emails were he has gone back and forth discussing price etc.the woman was a hooker on Craigslist. He tells me this is the only one but it still doesn't make it better. I ...
A. 6 April 2010: It's plain to see that your head and rationale thought blinded by your heart here. And until you get there, you will be playing out this drama with your husband and this woman, he cheated with. This is the confusion, the lost and lonely place you ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend suddenly stopped talking to me... what gives?
Q. I have been dating this girl for about 4-5 months, and she has meant the world to me. We both are young and still live with our parents, and I met her through my job. It's not that long of a distance, only a 30 minute drive, but I still got to work ...
A. 30 March 2010: Tons of people do this in the dating world. You've been dating 4-5 months and it could be likely someone else has caught her eye. Dating is a selection process and this situation you are going through is a huge learning experience. Leave her ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with my mate, or try to get my ex back?
Q. Ok so as i have said before, i was seeing my ex for 8 month and we split up 5 month ago now. He was my first love and i also lost my v to him. I still love him and i would do anything to get him back. He has said several times that he doesnt want to ...
A. 22 March 2010: FierceBadRabbit gives you good advice and I concur. Take a complete break from dating anyone, altogether.
Listen, your ex bf has chosen to not pursue a relationship with you, here. You said this ex bf was treating you badly. What does that tel... (read in full...)
I would love someone to tell me that my decision to see a married man is right.
Q. I've already made my decision, I guess like most women I would love to have someone tell me it is the right one but that is not likely. I've agreed to an affair with a married man. We were together when we were very young and I ended it because...
A. 22 March 2010: You almost sound like he's too hard to resist. You are not helpless here. And what is within your power, is to end this whole thing before it starts. And to really think about the possible damage this affair will do to you and to his family. Don't ... (read in full...)
Sex with others in the house.
Q. Thoughts on having sex with parents at home? I'm 17 and I live with my mum. I've been with my boyfriend over a year. He'll probably be at my house for his birthday and it got me wondering what we should do if my mum's in....
A. 15 March 2010: I would think, out of great respect for your Mother's home, perhaps you and the bf could go find a hotel room? That way you can have your fun without the fear of a parent walking in on you. Just a thought.... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can I move on with my life???
Q. So I have recently gone through a very traumatic breakup. I was with this guy for 2 years. We planned on getting married and had our kids names picked out. We were so much in love or so I thought. He left me on January 15th because he liked another ...
A. 5 March 2010: No one knows for sure if he's just using her, so try not to find excuses for him. He dropped you and I am sorry. Listen, you sound like a lovely, nice person, who is still in the 'denial' phase of losing someone. I know it's painful. And that's ... (read in full...)
Trust issues lead him to think that I'm cheating and I don't want to lose him.
Q. so my boyfriend of 5 months and i have been having problems lately. alot of trust problems! yesterday i feel asleep at his apartment on his sofa and my phone was charging. i still talk to my ex-bf and some guy friends back home. while i was asleep ...
A. 2 March 2010: Caring Guy brings up a good point. Your bf is pained by what occurred but his reaction was pretty intense. I am thinking, maybe he does have some 'control' issues he needs to address. That would be a red flag in my books.
Listen I can see him ... (read in full...)
How should I behave around this man in the office who sent me a Valentine card?
Q. Hi. I'm a little worried. I separated from my husband last year and have been dating a man from work who I have become very close to during the past three years. We have been keeping our relationship a secret. A few weeks' ago I received some ...
A. 1 March 2010: Agree with PeterPan. This gift was sent to you, with no way of you, knowing who it was from (even though you suspect who it is). Tell your bf you have a secret admirer and if he asks who you think it is..you can tell him. Have a chuckle together ... (read in full...)
What does this really mean for me?
Q. My boyfriend rarely kisses me any more, when we have sex there is no foreplay, no reciprocation of oral sex for me, never any kissing during sex, sometimes he's looking at me and other times just watching porn while I perform oral on him. I try ...
A. 9 February 2010: My instinct on this is to say to you, he's being a very unloving bf to you and is this the way you deserve to be treated? No it's not. So there's one thing you can do. Communication..plain and simple. Come out and ask him what is going on in his ... (read in full...)
He seemed so into me but now he just wants to be friends...
Q. Hey, This is just a really strange one, and I'm at my wits end, I can't do this anymore... Five months ago I met this guy through work, we both work for the same company, I work in retail and he works in one of our support teams. We bonded, a...
A. 8 February 2010: You really can't do anything. You can't change his mind, so the key here is acceptance of what you share with him. Sounds like a special friendship and that in itself, is awesome! There could a lot of reasons why he doesn't want to take this ... (read in full...)
I found condoms in his jacket but they're NOT ours!!!
Q. So me and my boyfriend been together for 3 year we have a real rocky past but for the last 4 months I feel like we have really connected. Until I found condoms in is jackets. They're not ours so I confronted him about it and he gave me stupid ...
A. 8 February 2010: Getting your bf's behaviours into logical perspective is very hard and painful for you. It is for a lot people in your situation. And you are trying to understand why you are staying there and tolerating this. What's happening is, your denial and ... (read in full...)
I found condoms in his jacket but they're NOT ours!!!
Q. So me and my boyfriend been together for 3 year we have a real rocky past but for the last 4 months I feel like we have really connected. Until I found condoms in is jackets. They're not ours so I confronted him about it and he gave me stupid ...
A. 8 February 2010: The trust has been shattered here and trust is a basis for true love. You no longer have that. You feel like you both have connected after a rocky past. Plainly he doesn't feel the same way, if you know exactly why he has those condoms. So now you ... (read in full...)
Never thought I'd fall for a married man...super confused here!
Q. I never thought I'd fall for a married man! I didn't intend for things to get so heavy.I work in the same building and see him everyday..he just told me he wants to end our affair of only 1 month. Yet on the weekend he texts me and sends me pics of ...
A. 31 January 2010: Hey there, Firstly, love your username, girl! lol Now, about your posting. Well, this guy can email and send pics of himself all he wants, but I sure hope you are not responding. If you did..I have to ask..are you nuts? He is married. When a ... (read in full...)
Does this mean I'm gay?
Q. I am currently in a relationship and have bin with my partner for 3yrs but, if I were to masturbate, I often think about women. I am totally straight, well atleast I think I am but I often say oh, wow she's really pretty. Does this mean that I am ...
A. 28 January 2010: It could be you are simply just bi-curious. It does not mean you are gay. The wikipedia meaning: "Bi-curious is a term used to refer to someone who does not identify as bisexual or homosexual but feels or shows some curiosity in a relationship or ... (read in full...)
Why do men walk out on their families, and essentially erase them from their lives?
Q. Why do men walk out on their families, no warning, institute zero communication, zero financial support, etc. Blame the wife, even though they have been the unfaithful one and rarely ever sees the children, one day out of the blue daddy just didn't ...
A. 28 January 2010: We can't tell you why. But there is a type of person (male/female) out there, who can't handle the demands of building a life with the wife and kids. They fake it for a few years and then bail. So I would say, that his self-involved feelings about ... (read in full...)
Help! Why are his friends like this?
Q. Hey everyone.... I have a partner for quite some time.... I need your input about his friends.... even before we got together and had my housewarming his mates ignored me... even though we were housemates... went out for dinner they shut me out...
A. 28 January 2010: I can only imagine how tough this has been for you. My heart goes out to you, hun. Some people can open their hearts to anyone coming into their social group, and some just simply refuse to do this. Your bf's friends seem to be judgemental, and ... (read in full...)
Why do his exes delete him off Facebook?
Q. what does it mean when a guy goes out with girls for only few weeks?? or months?? what does that say about him?? and the girls dont ever speak to him again?? deletes him off msn and face book?? what does that say about the guy?? and w...
A. 27 January 2010: I think I know what you mean. Women by nature, are quite often willing to remain friends after a breakup. I'm sure there are some out there who can move on without giving a hoot and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, either. But, I know a ... (read in full...)
I left my bad hubby and then got entangled with the wrong guy, what can I do, how can I meet other men?
Q. I am going through this very bad break up and i do not know how to deal with it. In the past year i have made very bad decisions...i left my husband and that was a good decision because he was hitting me ...but because of the problems in the ...
A. 15 January 2010: I agree with the below Aunts. Great advice from them! I think you need to consider making yourself number 'one' here and do a healthy good thing for yourself. Tell this guy 'it's done-you will not be available to him, anymore' ...plain and simple. ... (read in full...)
How can I break them up so that I can get him back?
Q. hi, i was married to the love of my life. he left about 7 months ago, and i am still in love with him. he is living with my EX BEST FRIEND, they have been together since sept.20... how can i break them up, so i can get him back??? ...
A. 15 January 2010: Why? I think you should really get this idea of "getting him" back out of your head, now. All it would do is -tell him and the rest of your friends, how horridly low you will stoop in life-just to get your needs met. Your posting smacks of revenge ... (read in full...)
He seems disinterested now...
Q. I've been sort of seeing this guy. We went out on the first date which went very well and ended with a peck at the end of the night. Now it seems as though things have slowed down. He mentioned that he wanted to go out again and text me that he ...
A. 13 January 2010: Stop texting him, today.You and he are just sort of dating..but there is no committment, no obligation...you both need to build on something solid, here. I have always felt that us gals should date and act more like men, with our attititudes. ... (read in full...)
His mum controls his life!!!
Q. I'm 29 years old, my boyfriend is 46 years old, we've been together for four years now and his mom is 71 years old, she controls his life tells him what to do what he should be doing and what he shouldn't be doing with his life. she wants him to ...
A. 12 January 2010: Hold it...is he a Mommy's Boy or is it possible...he's just a good son, who is being responsible for an elderly parent, who needs his help. You need to really, really distinquish that, in your mind. There is nothing wrong with an adult male helping ... (read in full...)
This is all just such a mess... please give me your perspective on things.
Q. I am confused, and can't seem to find the right way out of this mess... I have been with my husband for 21 years, we are both in our late 30's. Things have not been good for about 8 years, due to his job. He works away from home and we never se...
A. 7 January 2010: Very good advisement, male anon. I commend you, on your insights.... (read in full...)
This is all just such a mess... please give me your perspective on things.
Q. I am confused, and can't seem to find the right way out of this mess... I have been with my husband for 21 years, we are both in our late 30's. Things have not been good for about 8 years, due to his job. He works away from home and we never se...
A. 7 January 2010:
Things didn't go well for your husband and his new gf, did it? So he's lonely and miserable now, perhaps? I am siding with Eyes here, on her advice but I will say, whether to go back to the husband or stay with the bf, is a decision that no one ... (read in full...)
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